FAQ's :: How Others Can Help

> Believe him or her unconditionally (less than 2% of those reporting abuse are untruthful).
> Remember that sexual assault is about power and control.
> Give the survivor control over their decisions.
> Understand that you cannot control or minimize their suffering.
> Understand that healing is a slow process.
> Be willing to listen without comment. Sometime, they just need to talk.
> Assure the victim that they are not at fault, and that you know that they are not at fault.
> Encourage them to get help. Helping them locate centers offering help is even better.
> Abuse victims need a safe place to fall, to deal with all that has happened, yet they are slow to trust. Be patient.
> At the same time, recognize that this situation is also difficult on you. Do what you need to keep yourself grounded. Remember, the victim needs a safe place to fall which means that you have to be totally grounded in yourself, or you risk damage to both of you.